There are very few things that people can say to me that will get me extremely pissed off. But if I were to name one of the top things... it would have to be "You're in a Bubble"!!!
Now to my dismay, I have heard this more then enough times. It all started with my best friend and I. When we are together we have so much fun! We can laugh & laugh & LAUGH forever! There is always something funny. But the thing about our jokes is that they are very rarely inside... they are usually all in the moment. So if you're quick and paying attention... you'll end up laughing too. & if not with us... at least you will want to laugh at us! Unfortunately, the people who we were often around were not interested in laughing. So they would always say that we were in a bubble. And I always interpret that as... I am purposely leaving other people out of my world of laughter! But people who think that they are funny... would never want to do that. We need other people to be funny! & I can't just be funny to one person... where is the credibility in that!?!? I could never purposely leave people out! But that's what they said... her and I were in a bubble! But we never got how we created this bubble... so we just decided that it was them and not us! Isn't that mature?!?!
And most recently, on my trip to Belize... I was once again told that I was in a bubble. I and one of the other people on the trip happened to share the same sense of humor... which was to laugh at everything! We made joke about things around us, we made jokes about people around us... we even made up jokes!!! It was great... apparently though just for us! Not too many other people where laughing. And so of course... we were in a bubble! And during the conversation about being in a bubble... which of course happened after the trip... I was ridiculously upset. I didn't undertand anything... I needed solid examples. Thankfully they were able to give me these examples... only for me to find out that it wasn't me and it was them!!! I was right all along! Instead of just laughing, they over-analyzed my jokes trying to find the deeper meaning or underlining message! Instead of just asking me... to which they would have found out that there was no secret! And the reason they over-analyzed is because they felt left out... because they excluded themselves!!! Of course... no one likes to hear that they are really the issue. Especially when they are trying so hard to blame you! So they asked me, "Kisha, when is a time when you felt left out?" To which I replied, "Well, when people are making out or speaking a foreign language or talking about something I know absolutely nothing about!" And to which they replied, "Ah!" Because it made sense!
I hope as you were reading the things that cause me to feel left out, you would realize that they are all situations that I would find myself in RIGHT NOW! I am in Italy spending all my time with my best friend and her fiancee! I practically have third wheel tattooed on my forehead! This a very lousy place to find yourself. I have not created a bubble like people do with me... there actually is... a bubble!
& I know that so many of you can relate to this situation. Whether you are single or not... there are times when you are out of the bubble or the 3rd wheel! You are completely out of what is going on and any poor attempt at trying to be in would just depress you even more! Where do you look when the only two people you are with start whispering intimate nothings into each other's ears and getting all cuddly? What do you think about when everyone around you is speaking in a language that you can't seem to catch? How can you add yourself into a conversation that you have no idea what it is about? And please note this is not culture shock... this is about bubbles!
Unfortunately, there is nothing we can do about these bubbles! And I don't blame anyone for them, it is just the reality of the world we live in. Sometimes you just happen to be on a tricycle... and I guess that's okay! I am surviving! & of course I am so thankful for Jesus... because I can always talk to Him in these situations!!! It helps! But I must be honest with you... I am sick and tired of being on tricycles and I can't wait to get my bike!
Now to my dismay, I have heard this more then enough times. It all started with my best friend and I. When we are together we have so much fun! We can laugh & laugh & LAUGH forever! There is always something funny. But the thing about our jokes is that they are very rarely inside... they are usually all in the moment. So if you're quick and paying attention... you'll end up laughing too. & if not with us... at least you will want to laugh at us! Unfortunately, the people who we were often around were not interested in laughing. So they would always say that we were in a bubble. And I always interpret that as... I am purposely leaving other people out of my world of laughter! But people who think that they are funny... would never want to do that. We need other people to be funny! & I can't just be funny to one person... where is the credibility in that!?!? I could never purposely leave people out! But that's what they said... her and I were in a bubble! But we never got how we created this bubble... so we just decided that it was them and not us! Isn't that mature?!?!
And most recently, on my trip to Belize... I was once again told that I was in a bubble. I and one of the other people on the trip happened to share the same sense of humor... which was to laugh at everything! We made joke about things around us, we made jokes about people around us... we even made up jokes!!! It was great... apparently though just for us! Not too many other people where laughing. And so of course... we were in a bubble! And during the conversation about being in a bubble... which of course happened after the trip... I was ridiculously upset. I didn't undertand anything... I needed solid examples. Thankfully they were able to give me these examples... only for me to find out that it wasn't me and it was them!!! I was right all along! Instead of just laughing, they over-analyzed my jokes trying to find the deeper meaning or underlining message! Instead of just asking me... to which they would have found out that there was no secret! And the reason they over-analyzed is because they felt left out... because they excluded themselves!!! Of course... no one likes to hear that they are really the issue. Especially when they are trying so hard to blame you! So they asked me, "Kisha, when is a time when you felt left out?" To which I replied, "Well, when people are making out or speaking a foreign language or talking about something I know absolutely nothing about!" And to which they replied, "Ah!" Because it made sense!
I hope as you were reading the things that cause me to feel left out, you would realize that they are all situations that I would find myself in RIGHT NOW! I am in Italy spending all my time with my best friend and her fiancee! I practically have third wheel tattooed on my forehead! This a very lousy place to find yourself. I have not created a bubble like people do with me... there actually is... a bubble!
& I know that so many of you can relate to this situation. Whether you are single or not... there are times when you are out of the bubble or the 3rd wheel! You are completely out of what is going on and any poor attempt at trying to be in would just depress you even more! Where do you look when the only two people you are with start whispering intimate nothings into each other's ears and getting all cuddly? What do you think about when everyone around you is speaking in a language that you can't seem to catch? How can you add yourself into a conversation that you have no idea what it is about? And please note this is not culture shock... this is about bubbles!
Unfortunately, there is nothing we can do about these bubbles! And I don't blame anyone for them, it is just the reality of the world we live in. Sometimes you just happen to be on a tricycle... and I guess that's okay! I am surviving! & of course I am so thankful for Jesus... because I can always talk to Him in these situations!!! It helps! But I must be honest with you... I am sick and tired of being on tricycles and I can't wait to get my bike!
Deuteronomy 31:8
The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged."
Well written article.
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