A Woman's Worth

Here's another blog for my ladies! Another issue that has been raised in so many of my conversations. And now it's becoming my mantra... I want to get a shirt that says, "Know Your Worth Ladies... Because He Doesn't"!

I guess my thinking on this topic started with my own life. As much as I identify myself as being a smart independent woman... I have made some pretty lousy choices with relationships. Thankfully it's only been a handful of relationships that I have been in. But as great as I thought they were... in hindsight I realise that they really didn't see my worth. They might have thought I was really hot... or that I had a great personality... they might have really wanted to get to know me. But at the end of the day... they didn't know that I was worth so much more. Much more then a one night stand and much more then an uncommitted relationship. That I deserved to have my phone calls returned and my questions answered... I deserved an apology... I deserved to be pissed. And I didn't deserve to be the other girl... or another girl... or a booty call! And I'm not male-bashing... I don't do that. I'm not calling them asses or jerks or dogs! And if I'm casting blame... I need to blame myself for falling before thinking... and for lowering my standards and for putting my beliefs on hold.

I just wish someone had told me... told me that whoever the guy was just didn't know my worth. But instead, someone's always pushing you into him or pushing you away from him. I wouldn't mind some gentle perspective. I hate when they tell you he's just no good... and he just wants one thing. And I hate when they tell you to give him a chance... you never know what will come out of it... you don't have to marry him just date him! Both are sounding equally stupid. He wasn't an ass... I just don't think he should have gotten that chance! Why??? Because he didn't know my worth. He didn't see it... he couldn't see it... because I wasn't the one for him. The one he would always want and miss... the one he would be patient with... the one whose stupidness he could put up with... the one he would be excited to see... the one he would wait for. I wasn't for him so he couldn't see just how much I deserved.

Trust me Ladies, you have a lot of worth! You are precious and special... you are a jewel, a rare diamond... a treasure. Unfortunately... not everyone will see this. But that's okay! Because how much more cherised will you be by the one who sees it. And how much more will YOU admire the one who knows!

And I guess this is why I sit and wait for my husband... even though I have found a prospect. I want him to see my worth. And as a diamond is sought and cherished... so should I. And so should you ;)

Song of Solomon 4:9-10

You have captured my heart, my treasure, my bride.

You hold it hostage with one glance of your eyes,

with a single jewel of your necklace.

Your love delights me, my treasure, my bride.

Your loves is better than wine, your perfume more fragant than spices.

Hosea 2:19-20

I will make you My wife forever,

showing you righteousness and justice, unfailing love and compassion.

I will be faithful to you and make you Mine,

and you will finally know Me as the Lord.

Isaiah 43:4

Since you are precious and honored in my sight, and because I love you,

I will give [Jesus] in exchange for you, and [Jesus] in exchange for your life.